"Both men and women show preferences for high-quality
mates who are dependable, kind, and trustworthy; however,
men tend to show a greater interest in sexual variety than is
commonly expressed by women (see Penke et al. 2007, for
a review). Compared to women, for example, men tend to
report a higher number of desired sexual partners (Buss and
Schmitt 1993; Fenigstein and Preston 2007; Leitenberg and
Henning 1995; Pedersen et al. 2002; Schmitt et al. 2003),
express greater willingness to have sex with a new partner
after a relatively short period of time (Clark and Hatfield
1989; Schmitt et al. 2003), express more positive attitudes
toward sexual promiscuity (Buss and Schmitt 1993; Oliver
and Hyde 1993; Schmitt et al. 2003; Schmitt 2005a, b),
report less regret following a short-term sexual affair
(Campbell 2008; Townsend 1995; Townsend et al. 1995),
and be less selective during speed-dating events (Kurzban
and Weeden 2005). These results concerning the desire for
sexual variety and interest in short-term, low investment
relationships are among the largest gender differences in
psychology (Hyde 2005). These differences can be largely
explained by sex differences in parental investment (i.e.,
resources expended by the parent to increase the reproduc-
tive success of offspring) which places a significantly
greater burden on women than men (Trivers 1972).
As a result of their desire for sexual variety, men tend to
be more willing than women to adopt less stringent
standards for low investment relationship partners because
these encounters satisfy their desire for sexual variety and
involve comparably little risk for the men who pursue these
sorts of relationships. In support of this relationship-
qualified parental investment model, a number of studies
have found that men set minimum standards that are similar
to those of women for high investment relationships (e.g.,
marriage) but much lower standards for low investment
relationships (e.g., a one-night stand; Kenrick et al. 1990;
Regan 1998; Stewart et al. 2000; Woodward and Richards
2005). Of course, the fulfillment of men’s desire for low
investment relationships depends on their ability to find
women who are willing to engage in these sorts of
relationships.*"
How Low Will Men with High Self-Esteem Go?
Self-Esteem as a Moderator of Gender Differences
in Minimum Relationship Standards
*Viimane lause- see seletab prostitutsioon ebaproportsionaalset soolist esindatust
Aga kõige paikapanevamaks on ikkagi vana hea klassika- OKCupid-i poolt avaldatud kunagised andmed, kus võrreldi naisi ja mehi kuidas nad inimeste välimust hindaksid kümne palli skaalal. Ja kui meeste puhul meenutab graafik normaaljaotust (madalad äärmused, enamus keskel), siis naiste puhul nägi kõver välja nagu pöördvõrdeline imdb filmihindamise graafik. Suurem osa olid koondunud 1-3 palli juurde ja üle 7 said vaid ülivähesed.
Ma graafikut siia linkida ei viitsi, aga guugeldades "okCupid curve" või "okCupid 80/20" leiab üles.
Tegelikult teema potensiaalselt tundlik ja vägisi võib arvama hakata, et mingit sugu alavääristatakse või midagi, aga ei. Pigem näitavad need uuringud konkreetsetes aspektides soolist erinevust.
Ma isiklikult nimelt püüan vältida oma seisukoha tõe pähe määrimist, sest mul on mõnevõrra geenidega vedanud, mind on kasvatanud sotsiaalselt aktiivsed ja toredad naised ning deitimise teinud minu jaoks oluliselt lihtsamaks võrreldes harju keskmisega.
Ööklubiperioodist aga panin üsna kiiresti tähele, et naised läksid pigem üksi koju kui inimesega keda alla oma standardi pidadid ja mehed olid palju altimad koju minema naisega kelle juurest nad samurai kombel hommikuks jäljetult haihtuksid ning elukaaslaseks valiks vaid üle mõistuse kaasavara puhul.
Pikaajalise partneri valikul aga on olukord oluliselt võrdsem.
Eks esimene väljatoodud lõik selgitab miks see nii on.
